The writer's path can be a lonely path filled with frustrations, set backs and plenty of rejections. However, those things are just a part of the journey and they are what helps in making a writer who they become, not only as a writer but as a person. On the flip side of the difficulties of writing, it can be completely rewarding, exciting, fun, and give you that feeling you get when you are totally passion driven--ecstasy.
It took me twelve years on the path before I reached the point of being accepted by a publisher. That was a great moment. And, at that time, I determined that I would do what I could to help other writers on the path. I am always learning. That's one of the joys of this journey--you never stop learning. And, hopefully, I have
something to give back.
At the San Diego RWA, the group does something that I think is really cool. They have an ask an author session each month before the meeting. I thought that today, I'd do a do a little of that here, and put out some great questions that I received from another writer. I'm sure the other chicks will chime in, but everyone should feel free to respond as these questions may spark something in you--be it more questions or advice.
1.What's the most important skill you feel that an aspiring writer
should have other than talent?
Good question! For me I would say that is tenacity. It means sitting your butt in the chair daily and writing, then editing, then sending work out and writing some more, and when the rejections come in (they will) keep writing. The point is--keep writing, keep learning, studying, immersing yourself into the craft.
2. What is one piece of invaluble advice you can give to aspiring
writers?
Find the balance. I know this from experience that writers can get so wrapped up in their writing that everything else falls to the side. It's important to keep a writing schedule and to learn your craft and stay focused. However, find the balance--go have lunch with a non-writer friend, make sure you spend time with your children, go on a date with your spouse, take a bubble bath, exercise. In other words, don't forget to do life. You need to write, but you also need to live and do life and that means balancing it out. Otherwise, you burn out.
3.What is the hardest part of the writing process?
For me, there is nothing hard about the Writing process itself. What is hard for me is understanding the business side of writing. It can be confusing and frustrating. You soon discover as a writer that you are not just a writer. You must become a business person, think about the best way to get books into the hands of the readers and write good books. You find out that the determination you had prior to pubication must remain. Now, you have to be patient as your readership grows and keep faith that your hard work will pay off.
4.How do you stay motivated when it feels like the weight of the world
is on your shoulders (besides drowning your sorrows in Red Wine & Dark
Chocolate)
That can be tough. Real tough when there are other factors in your life that also cause bumps in the road. Because we are not typically just writers, but also parents with our own parents, we have spouses, friends, all of that (life), well--throw some of the bumps in the road from those areas of your life along with writing woes, it can be difficult. For me (and this is just me, so I know there will be other writers with different thoughts on this), I throw myself into growth. What I mean by that is I will gather up my audios and books that are either in the category of spirituality, self-help, positive thinking, goal setting, parenting, writing, finances, etc--whatever areas of my life that I am feeling bogged down in and that are causing a block in my creativity--and by using those tools I will work through it. I also remind myself of what I am grateful for, and that I wanted this writer's dream. And, another thing I do is go and work in my daughter's class. Being around little children just lightens the load. It does. You see them and experience an hour or two through their eyes and your suddenly reminded to stop taking everything so damn seriously. One other thing to do is laugh--get a funny book, movie, whatever makes you laugh. And, of course as a last resort there is the red wine and dark chocolate.
5. Is there one book out there that you read and thought "Wow", I wish
I wrote that?
The Alchemist. I LOVE that book. It's beautiful and meaningful and is appropriate for everyone.
6.What are you reading now? If you still have time to read?
Well, I usually have a handful of books going at a time. I read every night before bed. Right now, in the "self-help" category, I am reading Jack Canfield's Success Principles, Yes Your Teenager is Crazy, and for my mystery selection this week--Karen MacInerney's Dead and Berried.
One day, I am going to go on a two week vacation and hang out at the beach and read all those books that are piling up by my bed. LOL.
Thank You to Heather Watkins for her great questions.
Have a wonderful week.
Cheers,
Michele
P.S. A little promo for the week--Silenced by Syrah is out tomorrow. Yeah. I loved writing the book and laughed quite a bit while working on it. Hope you'll all check it out and enjoy it.